That very question thrills a life coach. I'm thrilled not because you're suffering, but because you're ASKING! That means you're ready to make some life changes and reclaim the parts of yourself that you've lost. So many moms share your feelings of identity crisis after becoming a mom, and of course it doesn't mean that you don't love your kids and husband madly. But 'mom' is only one of the many facets of you, and it's time to buff up some of the other ones and let them shine!
Here's a good place to start. Grab a pen, open a journal, and ask yourself the following questions:
- "What did I love to do when I was a child?"
- "What would I do if I had all the time in the world?"
- "What was the best day/time of my life? The day I felt most like 'me'?"
These kinds of questions will awaken passions and memories in you that you have likely forgotten. Take from the answers themes and words that inspire you, and you'll start to paint a picture of your core values: who you are at your essence. The next step is to take small steps to incorporate these things into your life. For example, if you loved painting as a child, maybe it's time for an acrylics class at the local college, or joining the preschool beautification committee? If you've always dreamt of writing a novel, maybe a writer's workshop, or you could just start journaling? Bringing elements into your life that support who you are at your core will bring back your spark – and that benefits EVERYONE in your family, not just you!
I have two kids who I adore (my daughter is 3 and my son is 5 months old), but lately I've been having a lot of trouble figuring out who I am. I just feel so disconnected from the person I used to be, the one who had a cool career and thriving social life, who took care of myself and had fun. I love being a mother of two and a wife, but I don't know where I fit in the mix anymore. Where do I start? 
