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Delivery Room
JuneBug63084

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Delivery Room | 6/2/09 7:10 AM
I'm not sure how to take this but my boyfriend wants his mom in the delivery room when I have the baby. His reasoning for this is that its her first grandchild and its not fair to not have her there. There are only three people allowed in the room, the father of the baby, and two others. I wanted to have him in there along with my mom and sis, only because they are nurses. I don't think his mom would be looking at me down there while Im having the baby but it just kinda freaks me out.
Sltyenpnh

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/2/09 8:06 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
well I would tell him what YOU want, your the one going to be going through the pain and everything else and say you feel more comfortable with her not in there. When I had my first baby I had my mom, boyfriend and then his mom actually was in there just talking to me and they let her stay to video tape it which worked out and since she was video taping she should only be by my head, which this one I am sure she wants to be in the room since she couldn't with her daughter, but I haven't decided yet so as of right now it's my mom and Husband and then we will see if I let her in for this one! But do what makes you comfortable!
JuneBug63084

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/2/09 8:26 AM as a reply to Sltyenpnh.
See where I am having the baby at they will not let you video take during the delivery, you can only take still pics b4 and after the delivery and ur not allowed to take a panoramic view of nursery, privacy issues I guess. I understand where he is coming from though and when Im having the baby family memebers are allowed to come in and out but always 3 people in the room no more. I guess just as long as he is there and my mom too I will be ok and if anyone else wants to pop in thats fine too

 

 

Katie923

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/2/09 10:20 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
I would say that you're the boss on this one. You need to be as comfortable as possible. I think it would be akward if my MIL was there! But I also think it would be akward to have my mom there too. I'm allowed 2 people, but it's just going to be me and the hubby. My personal feeling is that we were the two there to create this child, we're the two that should be there when she comes into the world.
fancygirl04

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/3/09 5:14 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
You are understandably disturbed. My baby will be a first g-child on both sides. I'm sure my mom-in-law would love to be in there to watch (she hasn't mentioned it yet though), but, like you, I find the idea very uncomfortable. Having a baby involves a lot of personal emotions, whether or not she's looking at your downstairs. Thankfully, my hubby is supportive of my decision not to allow her in the delivery room. For ours, it'll be myself, my hubby, and my mom. You're the one having the baby, and you shouldn't feel guilted into inviting anyone into the room who you are not comfortable with. Sit down and talk to your bf about how you feel about the birth. It may be his mom's first g-child, but it's also your first child. I'm sure that if you talk it out, he'll understand that it's not a fair demand to make on you.
ebron989

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/3/09 5:26 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
Well i still ahvent decided if i want my mom there or not. I really thinking of just me and my partner i think it just just be a private and very intimate moment that the two of you should share together by yourselves. I also think if you want your mom then you should have his mom he may see it kind of selfish in which you think its only a wonderful moment for you and your family and is is not included.

 

 

Sltyenpnh

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/3/09 8:41 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
The hospital where I am delivering this baby they wont let me video tape the labor either, I can video and take pics before and after but not during, so a little dissappointed by that but oh-well! You will be fine and you might just not even think about who is in the room with you when the time comes I know I didn't!
JuneBug63084

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/3/09 8:57 AM as a reply to fancygirl04.
I mean I get along great with his Mom she is a really nice person but I somehow feel things may be being pushed on me to include her and I don't want to exclude her cause then she would hate me and me and her son are going to get married and I don't want to be on her bad side. My mom, my boyfriend, and his Mom are going to the u/s 2gether next Sat on the 13th Its my first one since I got pregnant and I will be 20 wks...I talked to my Mom about to see if his Mom was being too pushy or trying to force herself in and my mom doesn't think she is and I want to believe her but I think all in all as long as I have my Mom in the delivery room I don't really care...I would be in too much pain anyway to care. And I know my boyfriend will be there too so thats all that matters. I know people will probably be coming in out and too. I will be too busy pushing to notice anything really so in the end as long as I have My mom there and him, Im ok and whoever else wants to pop in so be it.
addetar

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RE: Delivery Room | 6/3/09 11:51 AM as a reply to JuneBug63084.
This is actually a subject I would not be taking the "whatever" approach on. This is the perfect opportunity to take charge of your family. It sounds to me like she is going to use this tactic throughout the baby's life, and your bf doesn't sound like he is up for the task of standing up to his mom. It may be your chance to set the standards of who/how this baby is going to be rasied and who is in charge of those decisions. If you are more the type of person to just avoid conflict, you may just want to let whoever wants to be in the room come in, but just like marraige, this is about you and your partner and no one else. You may set the stage for her to be in charge of your relationship with your bf and child now if you don't make a stand. Good luck!!
 
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