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Categories » Preparing the Nursery » Finding room.....need advice!!!

Finding room.....need advice!!!
perfectionisa

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Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/28/08 5:14 PM
Okay... we live in an A frame house, and the hubby and I's bedroom is basically "the loft" with a door. The ground floor only has one bedroom, which is his 6, almost 7 year old son's (Dylan) room. We do have a basement, which is totally finished, but obviously neither of us want the baby in the basement. My biggest thing is having a nursery for this baby, and he doesn't understand the importance of a nursery... so what do we do about it? He says he's not moving Dylan down there, even though the kid never wants to sleep in his own room ANYWAY. There's apparently no way we can add on, and I've been stressing about this since before we found out we were pregnant. I'm not keen on having the baby share a room, since Dylan is almost 7 years old and has wayyyyy too much stuff in there. What am I supposed to do!? How can I even say anything without causing an argument? ... Any advice would be appreciated!
lisaword2002

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RE: Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/28/08 9:13 PM as a reply to perfectionisa.
Is he expecting the baby to be in your room forever? I mean, the baby will need a place to sleep eventually. I would have loved to be in the basement when I was a kid, but our house didn't have one. Also, there's no reason for the baby to need to share a room with the older child. He needs his space and I can only imagine the choking hazards in that room! I don't know that there really is a way to get around this without an argument. I think that someone is going to have to give and, in this situation, I am going to have to go with you. The baby needs a nursery, even if it means having to consider another home. We're in the same predicament right now. Our son is 20 months old and will be nearly 2 when the baby is born. Our house only has 2 bedrooms and the basement is unable to be finished because our house is over 100 years old. We love our home, but we will probably have to move to another house because there just isn't enough room. I hope you guys come to some sort of conclusion. Good luck.
penguin

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RE: Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/29/08 1:12 AM as a reply to perfectionisa.
I totally get the need to have a nursery!! I unfortunately don't have a magic solution for you :o( Our first baby we had when we were living in a one bedroom flat in London, England. We put the cot on wheels and at night (after the first 12 weeks) would roll it into the living room and shut the door so we could have our bedroom back as a couple. Then if he was disturbed at night I could get up and deal with it without disturbing my husband who needed to get up for work. I was so excited with our second because we were building a nursery in the house we had moved to and I was preparing things for it when I was about 5 months pregnant and we had a house fire and lost everything and the half built nursery!! Now we are having our third and the nursery again is to be built and I am so anxious about it being done that I have troubles being sane about it. My husband joked that if something happens to this nursery I would want a fourth just so I could have a nursery. I am not that silly of course ( not that I don't want of fourth just that that wouldn't be a good enough reason :o)) But sometimes emotionally I wonder. It's that whole nesting thing.. a drive that isn't always a logical one. I also found with my second that there came a time when I needed the quiet place to nurse or my baby would get distracted and stop eating.

 

 

megnyc

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RE: Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/29/08 3:49 PM as a reply to perfectionisa.
Hi! Same problem here...we have a loft apartment in NYC and can't sell it because the market is so bad. So, we are just going to make due with what space we have, throw out some furniture to make room for the crib and changing table, etc...and in a year or so move. Babies don't need that much space. I'm sure there is a way of working it. In time, when Dylan's a bit older, he will probably want to live downstairs. I hope that everything works out for you. I have always wanted to live in an A-Frame, they are such beautiful homes. Good luck with everything!
ashleymishra

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RE: Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/30/08 3:21 AM as a reply to megnyc.
I have issues with having my little man's nursery in my room too. I think he needs his own space...as well as me! I talked about it with my sister and she said that Steve will realize Jameson needs his room finished when he decides he wants "Mommy & Daddy Time" and he feels like the baby is trying to learn positions...or starts crying in the middle. She said that was the only way her hubby learned.

Good luck!
EternalStar

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Joined: 4/23/08
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RE: Finding room.....need advice!!! | 9/30/08 1:47 PM as a reply to perfectionisa.
I completely understand the need for space. My boyfriend and I live in a 2bdrm 1.5bth townhouse. It is definately NOT as spacious as we need, but we make do. Luckily the bedrooms are really big which is fantastic. Him and I have ours which fits our queen bed, two end tables, a tall dresser (his), a short wide dresser (mine), a chest at the end of our bed, our walk in closet and a futon and there's still room to move around lol. The other bedroom isn't quite as big but still big with two regular closets side by side which is good because it was my boyfriends daughter's room (but she doesn't live with us) but now they will share the room.