Katie923:
For the first 2 triemsters, my husband was really attentive. Now it feels like he doesn't care about what I need anymore. I ask him to have 1 day without video games (meaning TODAY) and he says "How about Friday?" We were already planning on seeing a movie then anyways, plus it was MY idea. I'd like for him to come up with something special to do for me. It may sound selfish, but I've been feeling alone and it doesn't seem to matter to him. He doesn't understand that physical presence is not the same as being there for me. Then I try and talk to him about it and he gets mad at me for it. I just don't know what to do. If I tell him I'd like him to plan something, then he'll only do it because I asked... That's not special, it's forced.
Ok, I say the key to all of this is communication. You can't just assume he's understanding the way you are trying to communicate because then you'll just end up getting mad at him again. I would start asking him how he's doing with the whole baby thing. It may be that he's using the video games as a way to get baby stuff out of his head for an hour or so. I'm sure he knows this won't be an option once the baby is born. I keep having to remind my husband that I want him to talk to me about his feelings on everything that's going on. I'm sure I will have to remind him even more as it gets closer to the baby being here because we aren't the only ones that freak out as the due date gets closer. My husband and I end up snapping back and forth at each other because we hear a negative inflection in something the other says and take it the wrong way. My husband is terrible at it, he's always hearing my inflection and coming up with his own idea of what I'm trying to say instead of the words I'm actually saying. Just remember to keep communication open...I know...easier said than done. Good luck!
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