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Frustrated with husband | 4/14/09 9:05 AM

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Is anyone else frustrated with their husband...MOST of the time?

I mean, I know he wants to help any way he can, but I'm the one with the swollen feet and sleepless nights. I know it's not his fault that he can't carry the baby (would he if he could?), but I still keep taking it out on him!!

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/15/09 4:35 AM as a reply to Anonymous.

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OH MY GOD YESS!!!.. ok all ive herd threw my pregnancy is your such a happy pregnant woman! But when it comes to my hubby he see's the dark side i swear. but he doesnt do much to help me out any tho for example im in my 3rd tri and my lower back hurts alot well i had to beg for a half an hour for him to rub out the pain for a whole 2 min. i think i can honestly say he just doesnt care!

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/15/09 5:06 AM as a reply to Anonymous.

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It's not that he doesn't care. He just doesn't know what it is your feeling or how badly it hurts.

I've had the same problem with my boy. He's been super patient with me, I've taken to calling myself "superbitch". Just because of how badly I know I must treat him. But quite honestly, he's the only one that I can vent to. And for example, last night, I couldn't get to sleep due to a number of reasons, contractions included, and after arguing all evening and me being "superbitch" for a majority of the day, he just said "try to go to sleep my love", which is more than I'd expect from someone I just treated so poorly.

Lots of people experience the same thing, and as long as you end up getting back to how you were with him before the pregnancy, you'll be fine. You just need to be aware of how you treat him and do your damndest not to put him down too much.

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/15/09 9:52 AM as a reply to krislimer.

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Well I must say I have almost the same frustrations with my husband that I had before I got pregnant but in my current state everything seems to be amplified.
My husband has never cleaned the bathroom - not once in the 7 years we've been together - so it's not a new thing, but man, right now there is nothing that pisses me off more than having to clean the bathroom! I have two boys in addition to hubby and boys sometimes tend to, well, miss the target if you know what I mean and I don't think it's fair that I have to clean it up - a boy should do it every now and then! Maybe they wouldn't miss as often!! Grrrr!
Ahhhh... I feel a little better now.....

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/15/09 10:08 AM as a reply to Anonymous.

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I know exactly what you mean. My Hubby's been great, but I just can't help it, I get so mad at him so easily. But the thing is part of me feels bad about it all and part of me just thinks that it's the job of the daddy to experience this just like it's our job as the mommy to go through all the stuff we go through.

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/15/09 3:11 PM as a reply to Anonymous.

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I had a smiliar post to this when I was pregnant...I believe it was titled "He's driving me nuts!"

There were certainly more than a couple of times that I could have strangled my husband. I frequently reminded him that carrying a child was a lot of work on my body and that I needed him to be there for me and to help alleviate the pain that I was feeling. It does get better!

Anonymous

RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/24/09 9:39 AM as a reply to sseeger.

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As long as he tells me I look great (I'll take the lies at this point) and doesn't say a word when I'm eating yet again, I'm good.

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 4/25/09 4:03 AM as a reply to Anonymous.

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I sooo know what you are all saying. Although, I am not all that bitchy.... I do have mood swings and what not, but I am still pretty much the same as before I was pregnat. My problem with my boyfriend is that any time I can't due something or feel poorly, he says "what ever, you wanted to get pregnate, so i don't want to hear it." So, just because we planned a pregnancy that means I can't complain a little when I feel badly?!!!!!!!! It makes me sooo mad and makes me feel like he just dosen't care about what is happening with me and the baby. So, I have been a little depressed lately, and well our sex life is lacking. So, everytime he gets all annoyed that I don't want him all over me, I just say " if you were a little more Affectionate, maybe I would be a little more relaxed and loving!"

Then he just pouts and gets annoyed. Our relationship other then that is still just the same, but after three weeks of this game he will just not change! I don't know what else to do.... although all the stuff around our house that needed to get done before baby comes is getting done in a timely manner because of all his extra time....

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 5/1/09 12:25 PM as a reply to Anonymous.

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Ok...my little schmoopy has nothing but the best intentions. When we first found out I was preggers, it was "anything goes for my lovey, you need to be comfortable and enjoy this time! You can have whatever you want!" I was so thrilled that he felt this way and bragged to everyone about how great and supportive he was. Then he had to go to CA for a week. And he bought "books"...you know, the "How to be the greatest Daddy in the world" type books. Well who ever taught him how to read oughta be shot! And who told him he should be an informed father,anyway?? He has been so far up my ass ever since he read these books, "you can't do this, you can't have that, we need to limit this, that and the other thing"! BOOOOOOOOO on him! I want my chocolate cake! I want my bread and butter pickles for dinner! And I ant YOU to shut up about it!!!! lol Sorry baby, but I liked you better when you were un-informed and didn't care as long as I was happy

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 5/1/09 4:37 PM as a reply to Anonymous.

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Lol. My husband is trying to tell me what I can and can't do, too! I love that he takes interest in this whole thing and that he's excited, but sometimes he can really bother me. If I roll onto my back while trying to get comfortable he'll snap at me that I shouldn't do that. And he'll suggest that my food choices at times are less than healthy. But he has also been a trooper about some other things. His snoring has been bugging me, so he sleeps in the baby's room on an air mattress. He's also started helping out more around the house. Before, all he'd do is take out the garbage. Now he's helping with dishes and laundry. And he's been working overtime so I can get the baby everything I want to get her and so I can take more of a maternity leave than will be covered by y FMLA. He knows I appreciate him and he understands that I'm going through a lot, so he tries to let little things slide.

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RE: Frustrated with husband | 5/7/09 10:22 AM as a reply to Katie923.

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I get frustrated about the sex thing. I seriously think my Darling Husband thinks that I am repulsive now or something. I think it's partially my fault b/c I tend to read stuff and probably have my eyes bulging out of my head when I keep reading about discharge...

And then I have to wear panty liners everyday b/c if I lean too far forward or bend down I pee a tiny bit. (OH the joys). So him knowing this probably does not put me on the "Damn my wife is hot" chart.

That and the stretch marks that look like I've been clawed from an inch or two above my belly button all the way down. (Sexy I know).

But damn, is it too hard to get a little action???? Anything? I've pretty much given up hope now and it's too discouraging to try and get rejected. I just hope it turns around post baby.

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