My wife & I found out on Thursday that she was pregnant, first by pregnancy test then by blood test. Her HCG levels were good then, but she was spotting over the weekend and by Monday, she got another blood test done, only to find out that her HCG levels dropped from the 400's to the 60's, meaning if she hadn't miscarried already that it was inevitable. The pregnancy would have been hitting four weeks today or tomorrow.

This was likely her second pregnancy because she was likely pregnant in 2002 before experiencing severe pain & passing a very huge clot, likely a pregnancy that had gone a couple of weeks further than this one, we just didn't know and her doctor at the time would never admit that it was a pregnancy. Because of this issue & the fact that they threatened to send our bill to collection over $80 still owed 6 months later, although we had been sending payments every month since the visit with possible miscarriage, she left this doctor, but it was never on her records. Maybe if this had appeared on her records, then medication to help maintain her hormone levels this time would have been prescribed, I believe it's Progesterone.

She's 37, already getting close to a high risk category, she has PCOS (like her mother & younger sister did) and is on a pregnancy safe blood pressure medication to help lower her blood pressure, which has been working. She started going to a fertility specialist, the same one who helped her sister (twin girls born 13 months ago) and a friend of mine from high school (twin boys born 15 months ago), along with a number of other people I know who's had success with this doctor. After putting it off for a while for various reasons, she started on the fertility medication around Christmas, only to discover that one tube was blocked up. She had successful surgery to get it cleared, had strong eggs appear the next time, only to not succeed and have cysts appear on the ovaries, putting her back on birth control to clear them up. This time, we decided to go through insemination and we finally succeeded by getting the news last week that she was finally pregnant, only to have our hopes crushed today. It hurts, but we have a great support system of friends, family and a great doctor that we trust. Due to the fact that she got pregnant on the first insemination attempt is very encouraging and her doctor feels that our chances are great, especially having so many friends that have gone through the same experience or know someone who has, only to go on to have a healthy pregnancy not long after the miscarriage.

We are very saddened, but it will not deter us because we want to get right back to it and try again, but know we must wait a month or two before trying again to lower the risk of another miscarriage. As much as we don't want to wait and get right back in, we know we must wait to not go through this painful experience again. Reading through this board gives me encouragement and my wife will likely get on here soon to help us learn from your experiences. We will stay strong as this has only encouraged us more. Any suggestions are welcome.

Keep being positive and strong. Everything happens for a reason and i think with time and patience you get the most beautiful things.

Mark -

I'm sorry to hear of you and your wifes loss. I will too keep you and your family in my prayers.