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ily143

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Idk what to call this | 8/31/09 10:05 AM

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My hubby's mom and I were talking and she brought up that all of the family is going to want to come over to see the baby when we bring her home. I understand that but they are the type of people who will be at the house waiting when we pull up from the hospital... I know im not going to want a bunch of people at my house when I get home or for a couple of days. That is the time we need to get close and bond with our daughter and get used to how things are going to be. I dont know how to tell them I dont want the whole world at my house without hurting their feelings or making me sound like a b****. Any suggestions?

JennyM

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RE: Idk what to call this | 9/1/09 1:15 PM as a reply to ily143.

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I can understand exactly how you feel. I have a large family too, and on my side this will be the first grandchild - a small army would not be able to stop my mother from coming over to see the baby when its born, but one idea to think about...

A friend of mine sent out invitations for an open house for family and friends to come over and see the baby. She stated a specific date and the hours in the day that the baby will be available for visitors on the invitations. It sound funny, like selling tickets to see your baby, but the invitations were nice and she even catered the event so she would not have to cook all day for people coming and going. Everyone got the hint - whether they liked it or not.

AliB07

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RE: Idk what to call this | 9/1/09 3:10 PM as a reply to JennyM.

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I have the same problem but mine is with family friends--not family. So my mom is actually planning what she calls a "pass the baby" party for them when my baby is about a month old or so. Basically that gives me a day to leave the baby with Grandma and go do something fun for myself (or sleep).

Also I think people would (or should) understand that you don't want tons of people visiting when you're exhausted from labor and delivery. I would think they would remember what it was like for them and nobody should think less of you even if you were to come off as a B-word.

Alliem87

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RE: Idk what to call this | 9/1/09 3:44 PM as a reply to AliB07.

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I just had my baby 4 days ago so i wanted to maybe give you a little comfort. I was very worried about visitors and not wanting to much going on but you will be so excited you wont be tired and you will be so proud to show off your new baby that you wont mind the company. I just wouldnt stress over enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and good luck !

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RE: Idk what to call this | 9/1/09 5:48 PM as a reply to ily143.

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I feel excatly the same. My husband's family is driving me crazy about all of this. I asked him to tell his mom that I wanted time for just the 3 of us before being overwhelmed with visitors. But his mom threw a fit because she's the grandma. So I was planning on it just being her, but no. His sister (who annoys me) is going to come and she's got an 18 month old, who is completely obnoxious. I DON'T want to be bothered with extra children when I bring my baby home. But I don't care if I sound or look like a bitch. If they annoy me, I'm taking my daughter and locking myself in the bedroom with her (since I won't be able to drive anywhere after my c-section).

ily143

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RE: Idk what to call this | 9/3/09 12:37 PM as a reply to Katie923.

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Thanx for everyone's advice... i think im going to tell everyone that i dont want a bunch of ppl at my house for a few days after we get home... the party for everyone is a good idea and i think im going to mention about doing something like that. I'm supposed to watch my hubbys little sister next weekend while his parents go away... but i think im going to mention that i would rather not... She's only 11 and i dont want to have to worry about her if i go into labor. She has other people she can stay with but because im pregnant she cried to stay here all weekend... and as it gets closer to the baby comming (doc said not to much longer im dilating pretty fast) i'd rather not take the chance of having her here too, or putting up with her while everything goes on... She's one of those annoying little girls, she thinks that if i have the baby before they leave she is still staying here an thats not flying with me to well... uhh all of this is just stressing me out even more... im so ready to have my daughter and i dont think his parents should be putting this on me too...

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