My sister in Law had this happen with her son, and he still sometimes does it but we just figured he didnt like his diaper changed and he wouldn't make a sound when people were around he didn't know either. she distracts him by giving him a toy and stuff! I am sure your son is kind of too small for that but good luck!! and Congrats by the way I was curious if you had had him yet!

My friend started using a diaper wipe warmer and that worked for her - but that doesn't explain why he doesn't cry with your mom!

Another trick is to roll (cloth) diapers and tuck them on either side of the baby so they feel VERY secure and snug during the diaper change.

Good luck!

My son is almost three months old and he used to cry every time I changed him, no matter where we were (sometimes he still does, but not as often). My guess is that they have to learn or realize that they are not going to be hurt and that they are okay. I usually get a diaper and "play" with my son with it. I hide his face with it, brush it up against his cheeks, and I pat his body with it. I make a game out of picking his legs up by his ankles to put the diaper under him. It might help you to realize that everything is new and scary to them. Think about it, they were in the same environment in the womb, they've just recently gone through the trauma of being born, and now they are bombarded with so many things at one time that they do not understand.

My son will be three mo on the 20th of this month (April) and he cries whenever he hears a loud noise, even if it is just my daughter and I talking to each other from different rooms. He gets scared when we cough or sneeze loudly, or when we drop something. His pediatrician said that it is a normal stage he is going through and it shows he's developing "on schedule". It is called the startle reflex.

If we stay calm then eventually our babies will realize that it is okay and that they are okay as well. Our children (even older ones) feed off of our emotions. i have a 12 yr old daughter as well. Just try to reassure your little one that it is okay and make a game out if diaper changing time, and soon the two of you will be smiling together like my son and I do when he's not crying. It gets better, it really does. I'm sure you are a good mom.

Picture yourself in a foreign country with all of these people around you doing things and making sounds that you do not understand. I'm sure that you would feel insecure until you started to understand what they were doing or saying. It's the same for babies.

Good luck and try to relax. If you need to talk, my email is: dsledjeski@gmail.com.

Enjoy your precious miracle,
Diane

P.S. My son still cries when I change his clothes almost every time.