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Categories » Pregnancy 101 » Second Trimester » Stress Please help me!!!!!

Stress Please help me!!!!!
SweetChandy

Rank: sprout
Posts: 71
Joined: 6/23/09
Full Term
Stress Please help me!!!!! | 9/28/09 4:29 AM
I'm really stressed out as of recently and I would like to know what are some good ways for me to relieve stress. My husband is no help these days and sometimes I feel he's being a royal pain in my behind. Work and bills are my main gripes. As of recently I've had these crying spells and I just don't feel it's right for the baby. Any suggestions?
nnkmama

Rank: bean
Posts: 1
Joined: 9/25/09
RE: Stress Please help me!!!!! | 9/28/09 7:14 AM as a reply to SweetChandy.
I have had anxiety for a while and just came off my meds to TTC so I've been upping the non-medical stress busters. Here are a few:

Practice deep breathing. This is especially good for me when I can't sleep. Breathe in deeply (aim for your tummy not your chest though I realize that could be tricky!) and exhale slowly. You can try counting as you do it, try to exhale longer than you inhale.

Take a warm shower or get your SO to give you a massage. It's not magic but it helps.

Throw yourself into a less stressful project. I knit which helps, but it could be watching a show on DVD you missed when it came out. (Catching up on a couple seasons.) Find a diversion book to read - something that takes you away.

Make a list of all the things that are stressing you. Sometimes just having it written out can help. If you need to go further, I like to play "and then what?" And just go through the list with the most stressful things and follow them all the way to the end. Just answer every response you give yourself with "And then what?" Eventually you'll feel like you can get through any of the issues or at least you'd know what you would do.

Schedule a completely diversionary activity unrelated to your stresses - so if it's a baby thing go to a fall festival - if it's money find a free lecture or class or event.

Totally NON-political recommendation, but it helped me just the other night. I couldn't sleep, I ended up reading a Time magazine. It was totally crazy of course. Finally I just said to myself, "Look if the President of the United States (or whomever the leader you like is) can sleep right now, so can I!"

Also nesting and preparing in less direct ways could be nice about now - how about finding some new recipes for make ahead meals and preparing them and freezing them for later on?

Just a few ideas! Good luck!
SweetChandy

Rank: sprout
Posts: 71
Joined: 6/23/09
Full Term
RE: Stress Please help me!!!!! | 9/28/09 7:29 AM as a reply to nnkmama.
Thank you.

 

 

Jennominal

Rank: out of the nursery
Posts: 102
Joined: 8/11/08
Full Term
RE: Stress Please help me!!!!! | 9/28/09 7:58 AM as a reply to SweetChandy.
These are really helpful! Thank you!
angiejo

Rank: bean
Posts: 5
Joined: 1/9/09
Full Term
RE: Stress Please help me!!!!! | 9/30/09 4:19 AM as a reply to SweetChandy.
I have been doing prenatal yoga to help with my stressors. I also do alot of day dreaming. Just seeing the baby in my arms. Feeling him lay his head on my chest and sleep peacefully. It calms me almost instantly. In all my life I think that time of peacefullness when your baby who trust you completely is sleeping snugly in your arms is the most amazing feeling of love I have ever had.