The Cradle: How did you decide on the name Oliver?
Julie: Actually, Tolliver is a family name, but it is spelled “Taliafero." I just couldn’t saddle the poor kid with a name he would have to explain and re-pronounce for his whole life. Oliver seemed like a natural evolution from Tolliver.
The Cradle: Was setting up his nursery enjoyable or emotional?
Julie: Neither. We didn’t know the sex of the baby, so I went very simple and middle of the road. Not a lot of stress.
The Cradle: Were there any pieces of maternity clothing that you couldn’t live without?
Julie: The Liz Lange black wrap sweater and the Bella Band. Absolutely crucial.
The Cradle: Did you receive any "memorable'"comments while you were pregnant?
Julie:: “It’s great to see you looking so 'full figured.'"
The Cradle: Any particular cravings?
Julie: Smartfood popcorn and sour candy. Reeeeally sour…
The Cradle: Was there anything you couldn’t live without during your pregnancy?
Julie: Just my husband and the park near my house. I hiked nearly every day, and it was a lifesaver…
The Cradle: Describe motherhood in three words.
Julie: Confusing. Tiring. Exhilarating.
The Cradle: Have you had any unexpected feelings with being a new mom?
Julie: Well, I have nieces and nephews whom I love unconditionally and fearlessly. I guess I thought having my own baby would be like that. It’s not. I discovered so much fear with Oliver. I love him insanely, but the incredible feeling of responsibility brings with it a distressing level of fear. This person relies on me for EVERYTHING.
The Cradle: Are there any books that you recommend for new or expectant moms?
Julie: I recommend reading everything and then picking and choosing what seems right for you. If you only read one book, you only get one perspective. Read On Becoming Baby Wise, The Happiest Baby on the Block, and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. They are all so radically diverse. The truth lies somewhere in the middle.
The Cradle: How do you feel about going back to work now that you have Oliver?
Julie: I am shooting a commercial next week, so we’ll have a mini trial run. It will be interesting to see how we both do. I have a feeling it’ll be harder for me than for Oliver. He just wants the boob and a clean diaper. I am the one who worries and feels anxious about how he is doing every minute. It will probably be good for me to realize he doesn’t need to be fussed over 24 hours a day!
Julie, her husband Scott, and Oliver live in Los Angeles.
